tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5681875145919050501.post8687164071365905647..comments2024-03-29T07:26:22.380-04:00Comments on The Marmelade Gypsy: On Longevity and Lives Too ShortJeaniehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17482528482559445943noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5681875145919050501.post-52014273900516758032011-05-04T15:45:56.210-04:002011-05-04T15:45:56.210-04:00This was a beautiful post and I'm so glad to h...This was a beautiful post and I'm so glad to have come upon your blog by chance. It wasn't whiny in the least but very true. <br /><br /> Lately I often find myself wondering about the roads not taken and about times and friends gone by...<br /><br /> At any rate, before I become sentimental, I'll leave it at that was a lovely postTerryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03382748737031648032noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5681875145919050501.post-69782146656546697132011-05-01T21:49:34.071-04:002011-05-01T21:49:34.071-04:00The road not taken.
Believe me, I think
about it. ...The road not taken.<br />Believe me, I think<br />about it. A lot. <br />But as my mom has always<br />said, you do the best<br />you can do and then you<br />have to forget the <br />rest. I think you've<br />made a bigger impact<br />then you can ever imagine<br />and are still touching<br />hearts every day. And<br />in the end, isn't that<br />what counts the most?<br />But I'm here to predict<br />that YOUR end is nowhere<br />in sight. So chin up,<br />carry on and shrug off<br />those heavy thoughts!<br />xx SuzannePrivet and Hollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09384567378252265965noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5681875145919050501.post-47073431595298940442011-04-30T22:00:03.338-04:002011-04-30T22:00:03.338-04:00Oh, Jeanie - I can certainly empathize with the fe...Oh, Jeanie - I can certainly empathize with the feelings you expressed (so very well, as usual) in this post, because I've had similar (although not prompted by all of the recent losses and whack-you-in-the-head kind of moments you've had in the past month or so). And I agree with others' comments above - we'll never know where the other roads might have taken us. But that doesn't mean we don't wonder now and again if we made the right choices (or in some cases, what might feel like a lack of a choice). I hope you know - and value - what a wonderful, positive difference you have made to so many, many people (family, friends, co-workers, community near and far). Chances are, had you taken a different path, you would have still found a way to positively impact people's lives, because that is the essence of you. And that's what really counts.Pat K.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5681875145919050501.post-30787233505468991122011-04-30T18:20:41.832-04:002011-04-30T18:20:41.832-04:00I have to really watch myself these day, because t...I have to really watch myself these day, because there are moments when I could make what you've written read like the burblings of the world's sweetest Pollyanna!<br /><br />You know that my issue isn't illness or loss just now, but constriction. There are times when I nearly panic, feeling as though life is going to pass me by entirely. I sit and calculate: let's see, when Mom is 100, I'll be..... 71... and still taking care of her? <br /><br />Lord have mercy, I may hit the nursing home before she does! <br /><br />But the situation highlights something we all have to deal with - a gain in one area (for me, more freedom, more time) will mean loss in another. It's just the way of the world.<br /><br />Sometimes I think about that great phrase: we can have it all. We just can't have it all at the same time. When I start to hyperventilate, I make myself stop and think - what is it that I can have now, at this time? The answers aren't always easy to find, but I've never failed to find an answer eventually.<br /><br />That "eventually" can be a killer, though!shoreacreshttp://shoreacres.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5681875145919050501.post-38561245466697304242011-04-30T16:25:56.955-04:002011-04-30T16:25:56.955-04:00Jeanie, thank you for sharing those thoughts with ...Jeanie, thank you for sharing those thoughts with us. We ALL have dark, sad moments, and there's no use trying to pretend all the time that we don't. I love the sunshine you shed on my world with your posts everyday, but there's no place in the world that's sunny all the time. <br /><br />As Bella said, one of the most difficult things about getting older are the losses - of family, friends, and opportunities. I've certainly had my share of those in the last years, and this winter has been a hard one for me too. But I've decided it's never too late to dream, so I'm coming up with some new ones to follow :) <br /><br />Hoping you're feeling better today, and looking forward to all life has to offer in the future for you!<br /><br />Love and hugs...Beccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14623887166087444590noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5681875145919050501.post-20649790520380126372011-04-30T09:54:09.752-04:002011-04-30T09:54:09.752-04:00It's always good to remember that you have no ...It's always good to remember that you have no idea where those other paths might have led to and that you're in a very good place now. I think looking back and wondering and realizing you're out of time for some of those adventures is a step towards understanding (and sometimes appreciating) where we are now. You've had a lot of sad and worrisome events recently, you've accepted them and dealt with them. It's impossible not to worry about them, that doesn't mean life isn't good; it means life is real.Joanne Huffmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01759522152058279949noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5681875145919050501.post-91125140594235322472011-04-30T01:23:44.620-04:002011-04-30T01:23:44.620-04:00Oh, Jeanie, a most difficult and sad month. I am ...Oh, Jeanie, a most difficult and sad month. I am so, so sorry to hear about all your friends and loved ones. But of course you should rant and cry on the shoulders of pals. They will return the favor some day!!<br /><br />As far as looking over your shoulder at the road not traveled - well, you only have one pair of legs! I am sure we all have our regrets, but they don't do us any good thinking about them. You do count your blessings, which is most important. And I count you as one of my blessings!<br /><br />And just think, if you had taken another road, you might not have met Rick, you might not have a bit of a pension waiting for you, you might not have met Gyps.... <br /><br />So keep living in the moment, inch a bit out on that limb when you can just to keep the adrenalin pumping, and take good care of your sweet self!!<br /><br />I can't wait to meet in June :-)<br />QuAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5681875145919050501.post-36520261746779939012011-04-29T23:04:21.884-04:002011-04-29T23:04:21.884-04:00This post is definitely not whiney - not by any st...This post is definitely not whiney - not by any stretch of the imagination. I think you verbalize what many of us feel, even if we are in different stages of life... For me, it's not so much looking back at forks in the road, it's more so worrying that forks in the road of life won't even present themselves to me. And then I fret about that and wonder if I can truly be happy w/my life if certain things don't happen for me (marriage, kids, etc). <br /><br />But then i remember the things that i have done that others wish they had. Like traveled to Paris alone. And i think - you know, life's not so bad...<br /><br />April has been a tough month for you... Here's hoping that May is much kinder to you - and that we get a lot more sunshine!!Lisa from Lisa's Yarnshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05335500882510597919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5681875145919050501.post-53025190020091010112011-04-29T22:17:29.175-04:002011-04-29T22:17:29.175-04:00you make the world more beautiful just being you ♥...you make the world more beautiful just being you ♥ sounds corny, but i really mean it, you are a rare bird... full of kindness, generosity & joy. i'm glad you ranted, i'm glad you are my friend :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5681875145919050501.post-66824187958635438332011-04-29T20:44:58.363-04:002011-04-29T20:44:58.363-04:00It sounds as if you've had more than your shar...It sounds as if you've had more than your share of bad news this month and dealing with death is not an easy thing. Grieving is very personal. If you need to "rant" a little bit you deserve it. Go ahead. Get it out. Those of us who care about you will still be here. <br /><br />I sometimes think about life passing me by but then I will get an email from one of my blog buddies from around the world and it always makes me stop and think how lucky I am.Janethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10084823218319628822noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5681875145919050501.post-88418349036218018002011-04-29T18:54:37.432-04:002011-04-29T18:54:37.432-04:00Jeanie,
You definitely are a cup half full kind of...Jeanie,<br />You definitely are a cup half full kind of gal. That's for sure, and one of the reasons I visit here is because I feel good when I leave, but you don't always have to keep the chin up... especially with us.<br /><br />I believe loss is the most difficult part of getting older - losing friends, family and community. You've had more than your share recently. It takes a while to gain a little perspective, but writing about it will help. Writing always brings clarity for me.<br /><br />And then there's that feeling that our options are drifting away with every year that passes, but every time I think that way, something new presents itself to me. I know the same will happen to you, and you'll seize the moment, because you're that kind of gal. <br /><br />The entire time I've been writing this, that mask has been staring at me. Boy, those are some big teeth... not to mention the nostrils. <br /><br />All the best.Bella Rumhttp://culdesacchronicles.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.com